Studies have shown that: Forgive others can avoid further injury

When you are offended by others, for example by the deception and humiliation, we will how to deal with? Yes did not hesitate to retaliate, or try to forgive? Either way, we are all from our own point of view, the ultimate aim is to make their own emotional release. But have you considered that your behavior any way offended by the different effects you?

 

Normally we would think that, having received forgiveness after the offender will be thankful.

 

Since the future is likely to continue to maintain such relations, and therefore will try to avoid the recurrence of similar offending. But there are different views exist. The view was expressed the view that the subjective offender that their conduct was not wrong, you forgive strengthened his idea, thus making the possibility of similar action but will increase.

 

Trinity researchers Harry M. Wallace University, recently published in the "Journal of Experimental Social Psychology" on the article demonstrates the first point: When we choose to forgive those who offend, the offender will be more to feel remorse, while similar acts again likelihood of occurrence will be reduced.

 

Wallace uses a series of studies to prove his point. In the first study, through his clever "prisoner's dilemma" experiment is designed to allow one of the participants A joint offensive by the other two participants in the experiment B and C. At this point B expressed forgiveness, C expression does not forgive. After the experiment continued to require offenders A must choose between B and C, its re-made offensive behavior, and found, A excused the absence of expression of individual C again to make a high probability of offending behavior, while the B individuals express forgiveness to make a lower probability of offending behavior.

 

In a second study, the researchers designed a similar scenario, so that the participants A in a choice between B and C, and to investigate whether the offender's own regret such acts. The results showed that the vast majority of participants chose to offend again, forgive the individual did not express C, and regret such acts less.

 

In the third study, researchers asked the participants according to their own experience to judge the true, half of the participants recalled from his past offending behavior, and ultimately forgiven, and the other half of the participants recalled the offensive behavior has not been forgiven, finally asked participants to judge the degree of regret and got results consistent with the second study.

 

Three studies were basically the same conclusion that if the offender has been forgiven, he will more feel remorse for their actions, while being offended by the possibility of once again make the same behavior would be reduced, rather than the l high. While not 100 percent will be forgiven the offender made to prevent the recurrence of similar conduct, but in most cases, this conclusion is established.

 

Ancient Chinese saying goes, "tolerance is big", choose forgiveness and tolerance is not easy, but it is to reduce the harm again in the future a better way. Wallace concluded that, taking into account the many benefits brought about forgiveness, in the face of offensive individuals, choose to forgive than hate revenge more secure approach.