The Little Prince in Nazhi clever fox that a person's time would be very lonely. The Little Prince tells it, among a group of people, people are lonely. No wonder "The Little Prince" was known as adult fairy tale, because the truth of which is not a child can understand.
That an adult? Many of them can understand the Jervis then? A person's lonely and a group of people alone are two different concepts. Although there has always refused to recognize the loneliness, as if it is a very shameful thing, which is precisely the more exposed human weakness.
In order to appear not alone, people forced themselves into the crowd, always being affected by the interference of people around, always can not be things aside and concentrate. Think about what things to do and what we do not like it? People need to put himself in a role, even if they do not like the role.
Therefore, a group of people alone, perhaps with despair, a lonely person, is a choice of therapy.
Has been misunderstood, lonely
Lonely as a derogatory term is defined early on, better seems synonymous with unsuccessful.
It seems natural to accept the loneliness of this definition is the continuation of the customary reading of it, in fact, most people's misunderstanding of his childhood alone.
Have seen a book on child psychology. The book said that as a child when the parents can not find a sense of helplessness is the origin of loneliness, the kind of panic accompanied by loneliness, a deep imprint in the hearts of fall, even though there was growing up, that loneliness feeling passive, still it is difficult to accept and long-term exist.
I know a woman is indeed a party queen days of night dance Banquet of-sheng, see I do not think their solution. I asked, you're not tired Yao, non-irritable Mody? Youde said that after she was unloaded heavy makeup, the lonely, scared. I knew that she childhood, separated from their parents, often a huge room where she was the only one person.
But we must not forget the child, the child's analysis is always superficial, such as: lost children with their parents, the child's feeling discarded, and rather than trying to get lost or other reasons.
This is the case, that was four years old, parents and brother took me to museums when I was a little less than sensible, but was able to realize that at home, my brother was a prince, was more favor with. And from the crowd that day, the elder brother has been like a mother pulling, I'm a step behind intentionally, loss and jealously followed behind, feeling for a long time has not given due care, then, I really have been isolated flow can not find the parents, and when I was very afraid she, frantically looking for their parents, I was panic that parents do not like me, not me.
In fact, loneliness has been misunderstood from the outset with. Even the authority of psychiatric medicine has always regarded as a pathological loneliness they felt that the spirit of healthy intimate relationships is the most important symbol, is the source of happiness in life.
Is so much absolute Mody?
The other side of loneliness
Prior to the United States to study, always felt it was a Paradise, burning hot, and is also worried about their ability to adapt to got there, "intimate" relationships.
Later discovered that the Americans interpersonal relationships are easy, a lot of friends and neighbors can be very warm, but it will respect your own time and space, perhaps even a sort of retreat monastery land, there will always be before the holidays booked, a number of irritability of the city people will come here to enjoy a positive and constructive solitude.
Yes, loneliness can be a positive, constructive, one can selectively loneliness, should be recognized and willing to accept.
When people are able to face up to their own heart, you will find, in fact, there are two roles in heart, a role that would make us love, friendship is very keen; Another role is is to leave their own space. Therefore, we have their minds when the word is often said, is this: Let me look at a person's quiet.
Imagine if looking forward to quiet time, next is still a noisy crowd, incessant annoy you, and you like the present to the spillway of the dam has been blocked by crumbling it?
Queen of the Chamber of Secrets
Chamber, sounds, always hidden in the secret of endless? Although always someone telling us not to have too many secrets, so you will Huodehenlei. However, in complex interpersonal relationships, in more and more colorful the real world, people completely transparent, not their minds, as if more like fantasy. However, a woman full of their minds not always welcome, so you need to be rehoused in a corner, to be placed these secrets. This is like so many urban people to see "In the Mood for Love", the memory most was that tree holes.
Are moving at the time, I treat it very carefully designed their own room, which is the most beloved territory. A soft sofa, enough to stretch the body, the large table can not arbitrarily put down a glass or two of tea and a bunch of lilies, as well as a fragrance sets, the room must have a CD, not images, because the auditory the impact it might be room for imagination and romance. Windows can be extremely bright, but with a dense opaque, Chuila the ground curtains, curtains of the texture is thick, the color is gorgeous and quiet, and then selected a song is a golden saxophone Carey "Lonely."
If you can not have their own room? You may be able to isolate a space, or underground room, or own a bed, a chair, a desk good lonely woman, is the ability to calm the woman, because she had to fall back on her own psychological Harbor , even if it is a simple and small space, but it is part of her own, she is a space in this private thoughts and actions are private, and released without any explanation for others and accountability. This seems to return to the ancient people of the original environment, in the vast vast wasteland, and the distance, while distant, perhaps lonely, but also may not help, but in nourishing the sentiments.
Loneliness is the person's original sin, but original sin, but you could not conceal it, from time to time, you should let it dissolve and release. The only way to adjust the person's two distinct roles to meet the needs of a balanced interaction and solitude.
Women's Chamber of Secrets
Here I would like to say, are contained in the growth of two successful women's experience: the
In 1929, Virginia Yawuerfu wrote "his own room," she said, women must be engaged in writing an undisturbed privacy of their own space, or difficult achievements. This may be somewhat paranoid, but it gives people a helpful inspiration
Annie is a beautiful mother of her followers, also believes in a woman's life must have their own room, she rented in their own homes in the vicinity of a small apartment, decorated in accordance with their own ideas into the romantic style of Victor Caledonia, the private Space is her secret garden, No Admittance day, take good care of his family after a child, she will concentrate on the writing and reading here.
While the woman has always held that most afraid of being alone, but the solitude of space to put them in a most practical sense of security in their own room to do the things they like, or do nothing alone to enjoy quiet, which is a female like growth process, as the Western psychology and the spirit of the medical profession's early emphasis on retreat, in the physical, it can increase arousal, increase in different regions of the brain hemisphere synchrony; in psychology, it can promote the spirit of the people relaxation, lifting hypnotic state, and can promote the ideas in mind, self-understanding and self-control skills, generally speaking, contribute to a woman heart growth.
I have raised a person's growth is divided into two major aspects of body and mind, body, grew up in before the age of 18 already completed, with the heart it takes a lifetime to grow. If you are only familiar with the body length, but not long-cooked heart, your life is a defect, this defect for you, no matter how much wealth you have, how brilliant "success", you are not happy, the lack of well-being ! This is no longer there, like a ripe fruit, how to eat are some bitterness, lack of sweetness.
Physical growth is natural in nature, should be a lot smoother, if you have healthy adequate food, have a certain safe environment, growth, the probability is very high, while the growth of the heart is not so with luck, the most important thing is that mankind has worked out the system's physical growth methods and experience, did not help heart to grow and mature approach and education. Thus, people's life will always be faced with countless confused, confusion, and even the pain and despair, do you think do?
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